The Insanity of Alcoholism - It is unfortunate to note that concerned people make efforts to prevent the alcoholics from facing the nemesis of their actions (enabling) or try to foretell their future actions (no crystal ball available).
There are a number of wise Proverbs among alcoholics who are in various stages of recovery. Some are very deep others have to be taken as they are. "The insanity of our disease" is how Alcoholics Anonymous calls it. This is the exact declaration. Because it will take common sense, being able to spot the behavioural patterns, acceptance and willingness to learn from past errors, and jettisoning of human reasoning to understand an alcoholic, it is not easy for me to get you to reason like me, though I can tell you how to spot an alcoholic.
There are around a hundred types of alcoholism. What I am describing below here is an individual who is still drinking and functioning properly but has not until this time lost any of the things they hold dear. Addiction is a disease which will ensure that they will lose the things closest to them with the passage of time, and the rule of threes will dictate a long-term prognosis which will be grim [jail, institution and/or death]. Altered awareness of themselves and the surroundings is the foundation to alcoholic thinking, acting, and beliefs.
Their life is based on doing everything in excess or nothing at all. There is no mildness, no central view point, no agreement, and no right and wrong for their way of thinking. Alteration of their understanding is what alcoholics perceive because they are in an existence of refusal that they are harmful to themselves and others.
Because of their ability to convince themselves that lies are truths by justifying and rationalizing everything, you will discover the biggest liars among addicts. This takes place in the subconscious.
Most of the time, they are unaware that they are actually lying to themselves.
To help with the lying such that it all seems well intentioned, the alcoholics start using words certain key words. "Probably" is the preferred word. "Probably" suggests goal which actually doesn't exist any. An alcoholic is not likely to do something if they say that they'll probably do it. Using these words, they create a loophole for themselves, which resembles an escape hatch where no absolutes are provided and no promises made. The alcoholic depends on expressions such as possibly, maybe, would, could, should, I'd like to, I want to, I need to. There is no meaning in these terms. The words sound good, but in most cases lead to a disappointment. Gradually, all parts of an alcoholic's universe will be dragged into their alcoholism and this condition will change all their relationships and how they interact with people.
The alcoholic's perspective is similar to the one of a horse with blinders that doesn't let it see on the sides. Although they may be able to work on various things on a given day, working on any one thing will require that they turn their attention away from other things.
Multitasking for the person addicted to alcohol determine a lot of disorder at once. There isn't balance when it comes about active alcoholic. They have the propensity to dwell too much on that area of their life that experiences problems. So, while they are spending so much time on one area, others will also follow suit, and the case of "firehouse management" will set in, and the need to tackle the most serious area will determine their life pattern. This is clearly a downward spiral, although some alcoholics manage to maintain a degree of control over it for a long time.
Since alcoholics are likely to drink gradually more they will mainly hide the regularity and quantity they consume. You will be factually informed that they only took three glasses of wine. However, they would not have told you that every class of wine they had was a 16-ounce tumbler. At this point, the negative effects of the drinking will also be hidden along with the drinking itself. Alcoholics often develop what is termed as counsellors as an external locus of control. Gradually, everything is another person's mistake. They will blame their bosses if their work starts to suffer. They see the problem in their marriage as a result of their partner's irrationality. They term their kids unappreciative when their failure to perform their parental duties is the cause.
An excuse for a glass is to blame on everything and everyone.The prevalent saying from them will be that they have been pushed into drinking by their job and family problems, even when they have no intention of drinking.
Alcohol addicts tend to have a weird concept of prerogative most of the times. They explain that having a very hard/nerve-racking/challenging life entitles them to behave in actions that are childish, reckless, and self-centered. Everything has to pay them back for something according to their attitude. The active alcoholic wallows in self-pity by concluding that they are a victim of life. Since they request more from the world, they hope less and less from themselves.
The expression "Screw it" is the fastest path alcoholics elect for self-demolition. This is an affirmation that all things are already ruined so they may as well consume alcohol. Once someone decides to quit alcohol, we stimulate them to realise that "It" is, in truth, "Me." The concept of "It's not worth it" reveals this. The alcohol addict is constantly living in self-denial although they are aware of reality. They deny the truth and try to sell the "perfect situation" lie to the people around them. Although there won't be much meaning left in their lives, they'll still want to put up an appearance that everything is as it should be. This is well described in Pink's song, "Family Portrait." "In our family portrait we look pretty happy.
We look pretty normal '"
Alcoholics are experts in controlling. They might not have been com artists before they begun drinking, however they have exceptional abilities. They can convince people in the most unlikely situations. They will have an argument with you as they wish to leave and they will make you believe it's your mistake. The skill of accountability is completely lost in them. They will demonstrate an almost total lack of integrity even if they had been the most transparent of people before their addiction. There is frequently one exception to this principle for every alcoholic - one thing they do very well and it will mainly be their singular source of self esteem. In some cases, you may get an alcoholic whose attitude to work is amazing, because it is an area they enjoy so much and are perfect in ......plus drinking.
With time, alcoholism will take everything away from the alcoholic We have received numerous inquiries about whether alcoholism is, in reality, a disease or a choice. It is truly both things. Alcoholism is the only sickness that is undetected and is not honest to the addicted. The individual who is active in addiction has unique choices, which are relative to all other diseases. The alcohol addict may face remission at any period and many do. Most times, in the bid to show those around them that they are not addicted, the addicts will stop drinking for some time, and will also get back to drinking after some time, in the bid to punish them.
It takes more than sobriety to recover from alcohol addiction. Every part of an individual's life will undergo a change when he or she is looking forward to recovering from alcoholism. The one who just stops consuming alcohol is what we mention as a "dry drunk" indicating that they are each bit as unhealthy, they have just quit drinking - a little percentage of population maintain this long period. True long-term recovery is only possible through programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous according to many professionals. There are many important aspects associated with the AA program but their prominence can't be exaggerated. Help from relatives and pals are what people in therapy need. Many alcoholics don't escape their addiction due to the enabling influence of their friends and families which prevents them from seeing the real consequences of their addiction.